Should I Wait Another Year To Send My Child To Kindergarten?
A question that has been floating through our minds, home and conversations for over a year. After a lot of discussion Jeremy and I came to this answer – YES! Obviously, this is our decision and yours might differ but here are some of the reasons we decided to “Red Shirt” Jude for a year.
Jude has a summer birthday, he will turn 5 on June 25th. We certainly could have had his preschool graduation in May but instead he will be sticking around the preschool classroom for one more year. This was a very hard decision and Jeremy and I did not take this lightly. One of the hardest parts of the decision for us was that he would be saying “goodbye” to some of his classmates and friends. My parents are both retired teachers and they really helped with our decision – they had seen the young kids and the old kids in their classrooms through out the years of teaching and their professional opinion was that the older more mature socially and mentally student was the student who excelled in school, sports and extra curricular activities.
Reason’s To Delay Kindergarten:
1. We find that although Jude is so intellengent he really lacks in the focus and social department. Another year of learning how to be a functioning person around others will benefit him for life!
2. A lot of times boys are the students the need that extra year – I can totally see that in Teagan, she is a lot more mature socially than Jude ever was at 2.
3. Jude is a large boy – we are talking 100 percentile in height 80 percentile weight! I worried about him being the biggest kid in his class growing up but also being the youngest. The expectations that are set on larger kids are a lot higher – people think Jude is a 7 year old so when he acts like the 4 year old he is we get the side eye.
4. Time – turn back time. Childhood is precious. Having this extra year of shorter days at school will still allow us and him to enjoy an extra year of childhood! I find this a blessing actually.
5. High School – yes, high school! Seems pretty far off but the reality is that it will come quickly. He will be the first to do things. I am hopeful that this will lessen the possibility of him following his peers – instead he will be the leader.
6. Hearing people heading off to college who had just turned 17 scares me! 17!! NO! Just like high school, choices are important. The idea of a child leaving the home for the first time at 17 seems a bit crazy to me. When I started thinking about this decision in the long term it made perfect sense to do this delay now.
7. I do not want to wait to delay because if in elementary school we find he is struggling I would hate to completely uproot his educational foundations and move him to a new classroom.
8. After discussing with Jude’s teacher whom he has had for 2 day preschool and 3 day preschool she assured me that the extra year of preschool will only give Jude more time to grow, mature and sharpen his focus. I trust her!
So those are our reasons. This means we will have 3 preschool first day of school photos for our little guy. Again, what a blessing we have – more time in childhood and more time to grow and benefit in the long run. Every child is different and every situation is different. We are excited for our choice and know that Jude will love his classroom again for year 3!
Tell me your plans for Kindergarten!
What are your thoughts on Delaying Kindergarten for children?