Well here we are, only 15 days into the new year and I am finally writing out my 2020 goals! I have discussed this before, I hate the word resolution because I feel like resolutions are usually not attainable and end up being more trouble than help. Since 2020 is not only a new year but also the beginning of a NEW decade I am determined to make this year the best year yet!
2020 – New Year, New Decade – Goals
Last year I gave myself a 2 book a month reading goal and I failed. I HATE writing that but I lost my reading motivation about half way through the year. Bummer. So, this year I decided to cut down my goal a bit and really get focused on picking up those books rather than technology in 2020.
My reading goal for 2020 is to read 20 books. Figured it was perfect to go along with the 20 theme! You can check out what books I currently have on my 2020 reading list here.
Give Myself Grace
While I am not ready to go into details, most of 2019 was really hard. While 2020 is proving to be a bit better, I am really struggling with the idea of me not doing anything right in life. Most evenings I sit down and think about what I should have done differently through out the day rather than taking time to recognize what I did great for that day.
Often I tell my friends who are having rough patches to “Give themselves Grace” so for 2020 I am yelling that to myself!! “GIVE YOURSELF GRACE CENSIE!” I sit here in tears writing this post because as I enter this new decade I am in a place personally that I never imagined I would find myself but as every day goes on, I am reminded that I am stronger than I give myself credit…I just need this goal as a reminder.
How many of you have gone to a movie alone or eaten out alone? It is hard but I find it kind of empowering as well. Being okay with having time with myself has become a bit therapeutic. I remember growing up and getting into my moms car and there never being the radio on…I always wondered how she could drive in the quiet. As I get older I find myself driving in silence and I love it. It gives me time to just BE. Just think. Just observe.
Alright, so the ultimate alone…traveling! Most travel experiences are filled with friends and family but this year I want to decide on an adventure for me and me only. Maybe it will only be a night away at a bed and breakfast but it will be a time for me to get out of my normal routine and find some time to relax, explore and enjoy this time to myself. Like all of my goals, they must be attainable so I am keeping it pretty vague as traveling does cost money so for 2020 it might be a low budget adventure but I am going to do it…ALONE!
We all do it. We all say we want more time with family and friends and then what do we do when we gather? Check our phones, check out, or make excuses for not being present. I am guilty of this…running a business means there aren’t normal business hours. I have a bad habit of checking my phone too often and it is clear that this habit has caused major disruption in my relationships.
In 2020, I will make sure that the time I spend with the people I love and care about is time that I am present. 2019 taught me a lot but one thing that I have held onto is that the future is never known. Life will throw you curve balls and those moments cannot be brought back. Make the time you have on this earth worth it and be present in every moment.
Okay, maybe not actually calling and talking on the phone because I HATE talking on the phone but connecting with friends. Just like I talked about in my be present goal – 2019 taught me a lot. My friends, old and new, stepped up and have given me love and support. It is time for me to do the same.
I have friends that are the type of friends that I don’t have to talk to every day to know that they are my true friends and I want to make sure those friendships are the ones I am fostering and caring for in 2020. Yes, we can usually pick up right where we left off 8 months ago but why wait for 8 months? So, for those of you that know this is you…you better watch for that phone call. And for those friends that I talk to daily…I love you, and I am not stopping.
By the end of this decade I will not feel like my house is closing in on me! So yes, this is a big goal. I will never have a show home house but dang it, I would love to have a home that I am excited to show off and host friends and family in. I am starting small and my hope is that by my 2021 goals post I will have less clutter to deal with!! Fingers crossed!!
To learn about the areas I am currently focusing on in my house, check out my post on decluttering!
You didn’t think this one would be missing did you? My goal for 2019 was ME and that was a broad goal but a goal that I feel like I met. In 2019 I focused on my mental health, my dental health, my eye health, and my physical health and taking time for self care. Like I said before, 2019 was no walk in the park but through it all I met goals and started 2020 healthier on all levels.
So, for 2020 I want to continue this goal. For the record I have lost 70 pounds, while I am not one that likes to put NUMBERS into my New Years goals I am going to do it this year. I want to reach my weight goal of losing 100 pounds. So, in 2020, I have a goal of saying goodbye to another 30 pounds by attending and using Weight Watchers as well as going to my reformer pilates classes.
I will also continue my mental health, dental health, eye health and physical health goals by making regular appointments and sticking to schedules. Last year I was terrified to go to my yearly exam but this year I am excited to see how much my health has improved with what I have changed in my daily routine.
As stated before – life throws you curve balls…you cannot predict the future but I do know that I want to be my healthiest for a great future with my kids.
CHEERS to a new year, a new decade and new goals!